Saturday, January 18, 2025

Kruse's Keys: Read "Right-Hand Shores" to See One Community's Post-Civil War Struggle to Find Its Place in the World.

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One afternoon two weeks ago, this book appeared on the crowded counter in the upstairs library of our home.  Neither Emily nor I had ever seen it.  
I leafed through the description and was intrigued by the endorsements on the back--one author called him a "novelists' novelist"--that caught my eye since one of my favorite writers James Salter is often called a "writers' writer.

I asked around the house. Did this book get lost in the shuffle of our Christmas bounty?  Queries to our extended family yielded no clarity.  It remains a mystery.  The only thing to do was to open to page 1.

I'm glad I did.

Reading Tilghman's writing is effortless--which means he's both incredibly talented and works hard at it.  His 2012 tale (one of 4 in a series I found out later) of a family's doomed (cursed?) farm on the Eastern shore stretches across generations from the Civil War and through to reconstruction.  He creates deep characters that bring the complex community surrounding the farm to life as he not only captures the entangled master-slave dynamic but also the fraught relationship between farm owner and newly freed men following the Civil War.  That he unfolds this story through the backdrop of the main character's scientific obsession with creating a peach farm comprised of thousands of trees is remarkable.  


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Saturday, January 11, 2025

Kruse's Keys: Read "Praying Like Monks, Living Like Fools" to (re) Connect with the Creator Calling You

 

Author and Pastor Tyler Staton (of Bridgetown Church in Portland) lays out a persuasive call for the church broadly, and the believer personally, to return to the prayer practices of the early church and Jesus.  Specifically, he notes the early church community came together 3 times a day to pray as a matter of practice (as noted in the Didache).  While he doesn't advocate for the the idea of physically gathering together as a church body 3 times a day which would prove difficult for most--he does urge for the idea of praying corporately in our own homes and/or workplaces 3 times a day.

Specifically, he suggests framing the 3 prayers as follows (like the monks, try to picture Jesus' face while you pray):

1.   Morning.  Use the Lord's prayer as an entry point to a conversation where you join God in what he's doing already in the world and in your life.  Habit:  Before you reach for your phone when you wake up--breathe in and out the Lord's prayer.  Especially frame your day with the mantra: "I am your servant, may your word to me be fulfilled"

2.   Midday.  Praying for the "lost."  This is a deliberate shift in the middle of your day from all self focus and noise--to others.  This is an acknowledgement that our work, our busyness is not what stands--it's the eternal things.  Habit: take a 5 minute walk before or after you eat lunch and prayer for your circle of family and friends who may not yet know and follow Jesus.  

3.   Evening.  Recounting the day's bounty and goodness.  For 99.99% of us no matter how bad our day was--we can find plenty to be grateful for.  This practice of again shifting the focus off ourselves and expressing gratitude is a powerful way to "cleanse" your day and soul.  There's a song sung during Passover called "dayenu" which means "it would have been enough"--Staton mentions a Christian pastor's translation of it as: Thank You God for Overdoing It!  Habit:  Incorporate dayenu into grace at dinner time to reflect on your day as a family.  Incidentally, when I googled dayenu to learn more about it I came across a VERY entertaining dayenu video by the Maccabeats: Dayenu for multiple generations

Additionally, Staton delves deeply into prayer in general but also in the specific--as in why doesn't God answer our prayers, or Why do we have to pray if God knows our thoughts.  Broadly, his observation is that prayer comes down to relationship.  God wants a relationship with us and prayer is the primary medium through which that occur.  And in asking God we bring our focus to the relationship and expose our own vulnerability.  An aspect I enjoyed most in this book (and in Staton's Sunday teaching) is the way he examines the text of the bible in its original language to expose where our own blind spots are.  Matthew 7:7 is a great example of this--this is the often quote passage of asking and receiving, seeking and finding etc.  The author notes that the best translation from the Greek is actually this: "Keep on asking and you will receive, keep on seeking and you will find, keep on knocking and the door will be opened for you."

Finally, he extols Mary's example to the news she received from the angel: Yes, have your way Lord"--that's a powerful prayer.   And it's a prayer that Jesus repeated as the hour approached: "your will be done." I especially loved author David Brooks observation from his book Second Mountain that he shares as Staton notes: "Commitments, not feelings, are how we show our love."  David Brooks further observes that a commitment is "falling in love with something and then building a structure of behavior around it for those moments when our love falters."  That building a practice of prayer in a nutshell and it's why 
"Prayer is a journey that starts in need and ends in relationship."

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Kruse's Keys:
4        The 'whys' of prayer when it doesn't go our way outlined here    
6        This book is about establishing practices
14      Prayer isn't about resolving our anxiety.  Don't be anxious but pray about everything isn't necessary a causal linkage.
14-16    4 reasons we don't pray: 
                1. Fear of being naive. "Prayer always means submission". this vulnerability is somethign we                         have to embrace.
                2. Fear of silence
                3. Fear of selfish motives
                4. Fear of doing it wrong
35       "Prayer is the act of seeing reality from God's point of view." Phillip Yancey
37        Spiritual health means not being hurried
38        The modern spiritual disease today is "efficiency" Merton
40        "Be still" comes from latin 'vacate'--prayer is a vacation from the control we think we have over 
             our own lives.
44        "Stillness is the quiet space where God migrates from the periphery back to the center, and prayers              pour forth from the life that has God at its center."
50        In our stillness we demonstrate consent.  Consent to the work of the Holy Spirit.
51        Practicing silence is a sacrificial gift to God--not something that we are meant to 'get' something                 out of.
56        Foundation of prayer (according to Jesus is this):     REMEMBER
                    Remember who God is
                    Remember who you are
                    Remember who we are to each other
57        #1 obstacle to prayer is our inability to receive the love of God
58        Catholics frame the Lord's prayer by the moniker "Our Father" which is apt since it frames for us                  who exactly we are talking to
59         use of the term saints for Christians makes sense because it doesn't meant they are good but they                 have received the goodness of God.  You can't become a saint yourself--someone else (that is 
            God) makes you one.
60        As we pray "Our Father" this is really about us asking him to remind us of his love for us.  the love             of a father.
76        Sin = I try to meet my most primal need without God
79        God sympathizes with our sin struggles--that means he co-suffers with us.  
123        Why do we have to ask God for something if he already knows what will happen?  Namely     
                because prayer is about relationship and vulnerability.  
126        God is a relational being to know, not a formula to master--thus we get verses that say God 
                doesn't change juxtaposed with ones that talk about his heart changing.
127        Sometimes God uses prolonged waiting in prayer to form something in our inner being.
134           Prayer in the middle voice means we are joining God--we are active participants in a story                 began by someone else (God)
138        "Yes, have your way Lord" is a powerful prayer.  It's the prayer of Jesus' Mom Mary and it's the                 prayer of Jesus in the Lord's prayer.
140        Intimacy with God yields fruitfulness (not the other way around)--this comes through:
                    - Prayer as a reflex throughout the day
                    - Prayer as a practice in the form of disciplined contemplation
                    - Fiery please of intercession
140        tsedaqah--Hebrew for personal righteousness -- it's the same word for outward justice
140        "private spiritual practice without equal devotion to costly public compassion [is] not only                         dysfunctional but oxymoronic"
142          "prayer is the furnace that fuels mission."  
142         "I am your servant, may your word to me be fulfilled"
144           The above is a prayer of consent--join God and asking Him to complete that work in you
146        Moody prayed for the lost by beging God to reveal himself to those people in a way that they 
              could perceive and receive eternal love.
158        Prayer that births new life is slow--requires dedication
170        "Prayer is a journey that starts in need and ends in relationship."
175        Most literal translation of Matthew 7:7 is "Keep on asking and you will receive, keep on seeking 
               and you will find, keep on knocking and the door will be o  you can dealt to Satan as C.S. Lewis notes in the Screwtape Letters
196        didache early church routines
199        "Commitments, not feelings are how we show our love."  David Brooks: a commitment is "falling                 in love with something and then building a structure of behavior around it for those moments                    when our love falters."  Second Mountain
214        The 33 years of David's reign as king are the only time before Jesus rose again that everyone 
               could access God's presence there in the city center where he placed the ark of the covenant                        before the temple was built.
228        yada is Hebrew for knowledge.  It's also used to denote sex.  Knowledge is something intimate, 
               learned in relationship not a book
230        Monks pictures the face of Jesus as they pray.  This serves to anchor their prayers
233-4     4 categories through which you can practice confession:
                1. Blatant (lust, rage)
                2. Deliberate (church sins not societal ones)
                3. Unconscious (deeper thought patterns that lead to sin)
                4. Inner Orientations (most hidden, where and in whom am I placing my trust).

                    

Thursday, January 9, 2025

Kruse's Keys: Read "The Life Impossible" to Escape Into Magic Realism in Ibiza

The Life Impossible. In the vein of Gabriel Garcia Marquez, Matt Haig's latest tale is magical realist amble into the intersection of mathematics, environmentalism, science, philosophy, extraterrestrial life, loss, and grief--and the fact that it all takes place in Ibiza makes this story shine.  While Haig's third novel doesn't rise to the level of his Midnight Library, it still stood out as a guilty pleasure of a read--one that doesn't demand too much of the reader (most chapters are only a page or two) while delivering beautiful writing at the same time.  Unfortunately, much like in his previous novel "How to Stop Time," it fizzles at the end as the environmentalist meanderings come off as overwrought in its emotionalism.  






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Kruse's Keys

19    "I was watching myself in the third person."  on the term 'beside myself'

33    "Maybe it was the islands.  Maybe they sent people insane."  Love the idea of being sent insane instead of driven insane. 

91    "To see everyone on Earth as someone's grief waiting to happen."  Beautiful way to capture the psyche in how Grace Winters sees the world.

133     Authors comments that love is not the rare thing in life, rather it's being understood by someone and understanding them.

172    "I suppose that is one of the purposes of all reading. It helps you live lives beyond the one you are inside.  It turns out single-room mental shack into a mansion."

188    "duende" in Spanish describes the feeling of truly connecting with the essence of life in some way--popularized by the Poet Lorca.

247    "chiaroscuro" the method in Italian art of having so much darkness in a painting so that the light around someone like John the Baptist takes on a holy appearance

259    Great example of author's prowess in describing people and setting

270    "Maybe that was what madness was: the loneliness of understanding what others can't."  Interesting notion.



Tuesday, January 7, 2025

2025 Reading list

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Praying Like Monks, Living Like Fools: An Invitation to the Wonder and Mystery of Prayer.  Author and Pastor Tyler Staton (of Bridgetown Church in Portland) lays out a persuasive call for the church broadly, and the believer personally, to return to the prayer practices of the early church and Jesus. Incredible read: "Prayer is a journey that starts in need and ends in relationship."  My full review is here.

Cutting for Stone (Libby, Ethiopia).  This has been on my reading list since it's publication in 2009.  Listening to it over the course of 20 hours completely pulled me back into Ethiopia where we lived for over 2 years--it also made me wish I'd read it while I lived there.  The author creates a world so immersive that it inhabits your thoughts to the point that you find yourself pausing unexpectedly during the day to consider Shivah's plights or Genet's betrayal.  Verghese's ability here brought echoes of Mafouz's mastery in creating an entire world across generations in the Cairo trilogy.  The unique aspect of this novel is the way in which the the author can present fascinating surgical details in a manner the average lay person can at least pretend to understand--all the while weaving a tale with multiple layers of betrayal, intrigue and redemption.

The Life Impossible (Spain). In the vein of Gabriel Garcia Marquez, Matt Haig's latest tale is magical realist amble into the intersection of mathematics, environmentalism, science, philosophy, extraterrestrial life, loss, and grief--and the fact that it all takes place in Ibiza makes this story shine.  While Haig's third novel doesn't rise to the level of his Midnight Library, it still stood out as a guilty pleasure of a read--one that doesn't demand too much of the reader (most chapters are only a page or two) while delivering beautiful writing at the same time.  My full review is here.

Right-Hand Shore.  Reading Tilghman's writing is effortless--which means he's both incredibly talented and works hard at it.  His 2012 tale (one of 4 in a series I found out later) of a family's doomed (cursed?) farm on the Eastern shore stretches across generations from the Civil War and through to reconstruction.  My full review is here.

How to Stay Married: The Most Insane Story Ever Told (Libby).  This book's power comes from humorist author Harrison Scott Key's  fearlessness in revealing the most raw, intimate emotions surrounding his wife's infidelity. My full review is here. 

May the Wolf Die (Libby, Italy). Named one of the New York Times "best crime novels of 2024"--this debut novel from scientist/researcher/author Elizabeth Heidler nails all the gritty Naples details down to the trash strewn highways that contrast with the breathtaking coastal waters.  Her experience living in Naples for 3 years more than a decade ago—working as a research analyst at the US Navy base in Capodichino—shines through with her careful eye for all things Bella Napoli.  Having lived there for three years myself-I can attest she gets it right.  One disclaimer: We should have read this instead of listening--the narrator's Scottish? accent trying to do dialogue in Italian was VERY distracting.  

Barbarians at the Gate: The Fall of RJR Nabisco  (Libby).  Currently listening. I accidentally got the abridged version (~3 hours) instead of the unabridged (~22 hours) which ended up being a good call as this book was just okay for me--not being super into business and deal-making--I shouldn't have been surprised.  It's well written and the details and conversation reflect the incredible work put in by the authors. 

A Death in Brazil (Brazil).   Published in 2004, in the second year of Lula’s long-fought-for-presidency, “A Death in Brazil” delves in the background of Brazil’s first popularly elected president Fernando Collor de Mello and the murder of his campaign treasurer/criminally corrupt money launderer Paulo Cesar Cavalcanti de Farias (known as “PC")--that’s the obvious death in Brazil.  In telling the story of Fernando and PC’s rise he contrasts it with current President Lula’s populist ascension and ambitiously lays it all across a selected violent history of Brazil–that’s the broader metaphorical death in Brazil. My full review is here. 

Reasons to Stay Alive.  I’ve enjoyed reading Matt Haig’s novels over the last several years and when I saw that he had written a very raw memoir of sorts I was eager to read it.  That it turned out to also be a “how to be a friend to someone suffering from depression” guide made it an especially powerful and necessary read. 

Necessary in the sense that chances are all of us will know someone battling with depression–Haig labels these people as “depressives.”  Ideally, the reader closes the book with a heightened sense of empathy but also an expanded menu of tools to help be a better listener and a more thoughtful (and more diminutive speaker/responder).  My full review is here.

Our Missing Hearts.  Celeste Ng (author of Little Fires Everywhere) has penned a beautiful and thought provoking dystopian (?) story about a United States where blind allegiance to country has stamped out any criticism or dissent--no matter how constructive.  "The Pact" is published and encapsulates this ethos to the extent where children are taken (aka the missing hearts) from any families not deemed appropriately loyal to the Pact. Far-fetched perhaps but no longer something unimaginable.

Leaf by Niggle. A good friend gave me a copy of this J.R.R. Tolkien short story that is ostensibly about an artist and his painting of a tree but which of course is about much more. Tolkien wrote it as he struggled with his own anxiety over whether he'd be able to ever finish the Silmarillion. In Leaf, the main character xxx realizes (eventually)

Nathan Coulter (Audible).  The first novel from Wendell Berry's Port Williams series.  I regret not having read anything from Berry's considerable compendium until this year.  I recall virtually rolling my eyes years ago when my mother raved about his Memory of Old Jack--it sounded like a lethargic and boring premise.  Then earlier this year I was watching a sermon from pastor Tyler Staton on the Beatitudes where he talked about Berry's incredible life in an illustration on being 'pure in heart.'  This got me hooked and led me to the first in the series of 9 books about Berry's imagined town across many generations.  This first novel is a richly detailed and contemplative story about one family and a father's relationship with his son and the land they work.

Elizabeth Ritchie and the Kingdom of Whatnots.  A young girl gets called into another world in a plot to assassinate an evil king--chaos ensues (My 12 year old daughter Betty's next book which she'll self-publish).

James.  My full review is here.   This is an incredibly imaginative retelling of Mark Twain's "Adventures of Huckleberry Finn" that boldly centers the narrative on the character of Jim. More than just a new perspective, it's a searing indictment of the institution of slavery and a powerful reminder of the terror of everyday life for enslaved people. Through Jim's narrative, the reader is forced to confront evil in all its iterations.

For an author as prolific as Percival Everett, "James" feels like a magnum opus of sorts—perhaps even a catharsis. If not a total cleansing of the soul, then at least an unburdening of the anger, outrage, and generational injustice that he would argue make up the Black experience in America. His acknowledgments section sums it up best, adapting a well-known Twain quote: "Heaven for the climate; hell for my long-awaited lunch with Mark Twain."

Rumors of Another World: What On Earth Are We Missing?  (The full review is here) This is a weighty book and not one you can breeze through quickly but rather calls the reader towards a meditative examination of how society models and sells life today is the antithesis of the contemplative path God intended.  The book seeks to answer three basic questions: 

  1. What does the current world tell us about heaven?
  2. Why is the world so bad then?
  3. Where are the natural + supernatural intersections - and what’s their effect on our daily life?  

The Covenant of Water (India). Spanning nearly a century (1900-1977), Covenant takes place in southwestern India in the Kerala region and focuses on a Malayali Christian family and a mysterious drowning affliction that affects someone in each generation.  Of course, like all great novels it’s about much more than  one challenge–its encompasses love, betrayal, and secrets–” this is the covenant of water: that they're all linked inescapably by their acts of commission and omission, and no one stands alone ... all is one. "My full review is here.  

All the Light We Cannot See (France). "Who knew love could kill you?" the main character, a blind teenager named Marie-Laure, questions as the Nazi Paris invasion uproots her comfortable and predictable life in there.  What unfolds is a story that seesaws between shocking and inspiring, horrifying and redemptive and which stands as a stark reminder of what a world at war looks like at the most visceral level.  As I tore through this novel is 3 quick days, I lamented that I'd let it waste away for so long on our bookshelf.    

A Place on Earth.  Berry's writing is somehow comforting–that’s a strange thing to say about a novel--it's the rare book that is more observation than narrative. Ostensibly the novel is about a town during World War II.  A town whose youth have gone to fight and who families go on living in the limbo that is war abroad.  But the novel is actually about the land, the environment and seasons, the floods and droughts, the earth and woods–somehow Berry has written a story where the people are the scenery.  My full review is here.

Gabriela, Clove and Cinnamon (Brazil)  Author Jorge Amado is one of the best known Brazilian writers so I thought it was high time that I read one of this novels.  Gabriela is a story of a 1920's Bahian cacao town struggling against modernity whose entire arc is upended by a poor and beautiful young woman from the northeast. For a novel written in the 1950's, the storyline is surprisingly salacious at times as Gabriela proves to have an intoxicating effect on every man she encounters. Despite some racy scenes, the narrative remains in realm of literature teetering on magic realism and flirting with beach read status.  For this reader, I likely won't revisit Amado but it was a good data point on Brazilian literature. 

Hannah CoulterHannah Coulter, the penultimate novel in Wendell Berry's Port Williams series, offers a touching first-person account of its title character's life from her childhood to WWII’s aftermath to the turn of the century.  So while it was published 45 years after his first novel Nathan Coulter  (my review is here) from a narrative chronological aspect Hannah spans the life of Berry’s Port Williams corpus and reflects the maturity of an American literary master in ways his earliest novels might not.  It’s a deep narrative, full of sorrow and triumph, heartache and love, pain and healing–stretching across the human experience while also recounting the decline of the American farming sector’s way of life. My full review is here

When the Cranes Fly South.  The book very well could have been called "Things Unspoken" given the main character's intense interior monologue of emotions, outcries and thoughts that he largely keeps locked up throughout the entire novel. The book’s unique narrative construction consists of alternating rambling first -person chapters of an old aging man’s thoughts and conversations, punctuated by shocking staccato entries in a journal kept by the various caretakers and family who look after the old man.  The effect is striking. The 89 year-old old man–Bo–is awash in memories and emotions, and each day is often a struggle–these chapters are rich and then you turn the page are slapped with a dry, clinical sentence-long summary of Bo’s life that day.  It’s powerful.  It’s sad.  It’s a purposeful choice that author makes.  Review Pending. My full review is here

A Moveable Feast (Paris). Hemingway's novel hit different this time around reading it at the midpoint of my life.  Having walked the same Parisian streets and cafes.  Having lived nearly a decade of my life overseas, I feel Hemingway's emotions and insecurities in a much more visceral way.   Certainly of course, Hemingway's Paris no longer exists but it's beautiful to hear his young writer's voice developing itself as he describes, the city and its country and the expats that inhabit it.  My full review is here.

Andy Catlett: Early Travels. My third Wendell Berry novel this year.  This was a quick, light read covering the childhood experiences of a young 9-year old Andy Catlett as he spends time on his grandparent's farm and learns about his family's deep connection to the land.  Every story I read from Berry's fictional "Port Williams membership" draws me deeper into the author's beautiful, introspective writing.  His novels don't have driving narratives but instead the characters--the people--are the narrative.  

Someone Like Us (Ethiopia) This novel is far less sweeping that his previous novels, it still builds out Mengestu's tapestry of the immigrant experience in America by focusing on an Ethiopian father and son's evolving relationship.  Told against scenes shifting from Ethiopia to France to Chicago and times past and present, Mengestu doesn't shy away from difficult topics like mental health and substance abuse and the toll they take on memory and relationships.  In an era where terms like "immigration" carry a charge weight, Someone Like Us adds important context and hopefully develops increased empathy in the reader on the myriad struggles faced by immigrants by everything from police stops to just not knowing how America works.  Books like these are important in personalizing difficult topics and allowing the reader to grapple with a story in which there are no easy answers. My full review is here.  Also see my review of his amazing third novel: All Our Names, a book that I call the Great African Novel.  See his other beautiful novel: All the Things That Heaven Bears here--my review is here.

Street Girls: Hope on the Streets of Brazil. This is British author/journalist Matt Roper's first of four books highlighting the child-trafficking and child-prostitution problem in Brazil. Rather than an extensive review I typed out verbatim the contents of one letter from a street girl that Matt worked with through MeninaDanca.  The book is also filled with letters from the girls--their heartbreaking tales--many pushed into prostitution by their families as pre-teens. My full review is here.

Before the Night Comes (Brazil) Currently reading author/journalist Matt Roper's 4th book chronicling his work with the young Brazilian pre-teens and teens caught up in sex trafficking all along the BR-116.   

Hamnet (currently listening)

East of Eden (currently reading)


Meh

Caste: The Origin of our Discontent.   The book is at itks most powerful in her research on how the Nazi party/government studied the caste system in the United States and sought to emulate it in its systemic subjugation and extermination of the Jewish population.  Most shameful (for the United States) though is her keen observation that in post-WWII Germany you don’t find echoes and monuments and memorialization of Nazi heritage, i.e., you don’t have monuments to Rommel or colleges and highways named after Hitler.  This distinction is a striking one and worth considering as relics still remain despite the recent shifting political winds.  Ultimately, even an unconvinced reader must acknowledge the the troubled history and origins that Wilkerson lays out, and that while an outright caste system may no longer remain in the United States, vestiges of it echo still today across the spectrum of the black existence here from health challenges to the stories told to children on how to survive even today (for more on this read Coates’s “Letter to My Son). My full review is here.

Duds

Fresh Water for Flowers.  Was listening to this novel on Libby.  But I think we gave up.  Not our cup of fresh water tea.

You Shall Know Our Velocity.  Do NOT recommend.  It very mysteriously appeared on our bookshelf when I was organizing and I thought it must be some type of sign--it was not.  This is early Eggers from 2002 about a pair of friends who set about on a haphazard journey around the world to give away $32,000.  It's a catchy premise but doesn't deliver--the characters aren't particularly likeable and much of the action is mired in dense philosophical ponderings.  Instead read some of his other excellent tomes: What is the What?Hologram for the King, and The Circle.   The first I read in 2011 and the latter two I read in 2014.


To Read List

The Showman: Inside the Invasion That Shook the World and Made a Leader of Volodymyr Zelensky

Kingdom Calling: Vocational Stewardship for the Common Good.

The Color of Water: A Black Man's Tribute to His White Mother

The Barn 

There and Then. 

People Like Us. 

Embarrassing List of Books I've said I'm going to finish for several years:

Tribe of Mentors.  Currently reading for the last four years. My full review will be here...one day

The Italians. Was reading but misplaced the book.  If I find it I will finish it.